As we all know, relationships aren't always peaches and creme. No matter what stage in the relationship you're in, relationships require a lot of hard work. Now, if you find yourself having more rainy days than sunny ones, there's a chance you may be in a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are different from any other because they're terminal and irreparable. Often, people don't realize they're in a toxic relationship until it's too late. This is because they feel they can ignore or somehow work through those issues. If you're unsure about whether you're in a toxic relationship or not, here are 10 signs to help you out.
#1: They're controlling or possessive
One of the most common signs of a toxic relationship is your partner being too controlling or possessive. If they're always making decisions for you and/or think they own you, these are traits of a toxic relationship. You're in a relationship, not a prison. If your significant other always feels the need to tell you where you can or can't go, who you can or can't hang out with, or what you can or can't wear, they're toxic.
#2: You're feeling more drained then fulfilled
Relationships are meant to fill you up and add something special to your life. As I mentioned before, relationships aren't always going to be great, but if you feel yourself becoming drained and diminished because of your relationship, it may be toxic.
#3: You're the only one making adjustments and sacrifices
The amount of effort put in a relationship has a lot to do with how successful it is. If you're the only one putting in the effort, the relationship is bound to crumble. Relationships take two and to have a successful one, both parties must be willing to make sacrifices.
#4: You have the same argument over and over
Because relationships are about compromise, disagreements are inevitable. Where I feel arguing is a normal part of a relationship, constantly arguing over the same thing is counter-productive and a waste of time. If you can't seem to come to a resolution, there's no point in continuing the relationship.
#5: Ongoing criticism rather than uplifting
Your significant other's main priority should be to uplift you, not tear you down. It may seem as though no matter what you do, they find something bad to say about you. If you're always being negatively criticized by your partner, your relationship is unhealthy and therefore toxic.
#6: Constantly catching them in lies
Dishonesty is the biggest red flag of them all. This is because if you can't trust your partner the realtionship will crash and burn. Lying not only proves that the person you're with is untrustworthy, but that they have a lack of respect for you and the realtionship. Because of this, it'll be hard for your relationship to thrive.
#7: You constantly break up and get back together
I think a lot of us can relate to being on the relationship rollercoaster. The "break up to make up" trend is common when it comes to relationships. Usually, both parties know the relationship isn't healthy, hence why they break up but always find a way back to each other. If you're in a realtionship where it seems like the same song and dance over and over again, end things...permanently.
#8: You often feel manipulated
Another big red flag among relationships is manipulation. Your partner may have a great way of making you feeling like you're always wrong in every situation. They might also manipulate you into doing something they knew you had no desire doing. Either way, manipulation in a relationship is extremely selfish and toxic.
#9: Relationships around you have changed
If you can't remember the last time you've had a girl's night or spent some quality time with your family without your significant other, this is evidence of a toxic relationship. A lot of the times, your partner may want to isolate you from outsiders in fear that you'll come to your senses and leave them. This is why they rarely allow you to meet new people or hang out with your friends and family.
#10: You've completely lost yourself
You woke up one day and didn't recognize the person you saw in the mirror. You no longer do the things you used to do and there's a lack of motivation and happiness because the relationship you're in has drained you completely. Once you find yourself in this position, you must find the strength to leave the relationship and get back to your old self.