Taking Yourself On Dates

Taking Yourself On Dates

These days, it seems as though people are completely turned off by the idea of being alone. There's a notion that being alone means being lonely. Because of this, some feel the need to always be with someone. As I mentioned in my post on Monkey Bar Syndrome, people will go from one relationship to the next just to avoid being alone. With Valentines Day approaching, this will only further highlight that assumption. Many people don't realize being single is the perfect time to get to know yourself and the best way to do that is by dating yourself.

Although dating yourself may seem uncomfortable at first, it can be extremely beneficial. Dating yourself is not only a good way to get to know yourself, but it could also be rewarding. For those who are introverted, this could be an easy task but may be a struggle for those who enjoy the company of others. At first, it could be awkward especially if you're used to being taken out on dates, but eventually, you'll get used to it.


The list of things you can do when dating yourself is endless. One of the biggest perks when taking yourself out is that you have complete control over everything. What you say goes. You can go to your favorite restaurant or finally go to the steakhouse you've always wanted to go to. You can take yourself the movies or go see a play. Some dates can be as simple as getting ice cream or packing up your favorite foods and having a picnic in the park. Do whatever comes to mind that'll make you feel you're treating yourself.


It's important that you get ready for your solo dates the same way you'd get ready for a regular date. Take time doing your hair and your makeup. Pick out a cute outfit and put on your most expensive perfume. Bring out those heels you've been waiting for months to wear. Do it up for yourself the way you would do it up for a normal date. This will make you feel like you're going on a date and will automatically give you a sense of confidence.


Dating yourself isn’t just exclusive to single people either. On the days when your significant other may be busy, take yourself out. If you want to see that new romcom and they're not interested, get dressed and take yourself to the movies. If you want to go to the restaurant that just opened down the street but they want to stay in, get dolled up and treat yourself. As I mentioned before, it may be awkward at first, but it won't hurt.


You’ll be surprised by how much you'll enjoy yourself when taking yourself out. It's the perfect way to step out of your comfort zone and can be extremely therapeutic. This will give you a sense of self, as people tend to get to know themselves more when they’re alone. The whole point of dating yourself is to learn to make yourself a priority. As the great Whitney Houston said the greatest love of all is learning to love yourself, so treat yo'self!

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